So what I really wanted to do was be able to use the ant command line build to build the api's, then pull up the services that I'm working on in NB and not get a library version mismatch.
The file I needed to modify was the netbeans.conf. On a windows box (I think - from the info out there) The file is located in C:\Program Files\netbeans-?.?\etc\netbeans.conf. On a mac the file is located in Applications/NetBeans/NetBeans ?.?app/Contents/Resources/NetBeans/etc/netbeans.conf
To change the default modify the line:
# Default location of JDK, can be overridden by using --jdkhome <dir>:netbeans_jdkhome=/System/Library/Frameworks/JavaVM.framework/Versions/1.6/Home
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